“Are you gay?” “Is your brother gay?”
I get these questions all the time, the logic behind them being the simple assumption that one must themselves or their siblings be gay in order to really care about the massive inequalities faced by the LGBTQ community in America. I feel deflated every time I hear these questions. The notion that, in the face of true injustice, one must be a member of an oppressed group to be bothered is all too common. We as Americans MUST recognize that these inequalities are not “gay rights” issues but rather human rights issues. Each and every one us should be as appalled as if it were our siblings, parents and selves being stripped of our most basic rights. We must acknowledge that until we all share them, what we call “rights” are actually just privileges bestowed upon some, yet paid for by all.
This is the very belief The Ally Coalition is founded upon. We strongly believe that our role and responsibility as LGBTQ allies is imperative in the fight for equality in America and around the world. We believe the one thing more toxic than hate is apathy and the time has come for allies to stand up together and say - “We do not accept inequality.” We demand equal rights for our friends, sisters, brothers, neighbors, co-workers and strangers. We want to bring our children into a country where they can truly be themselves without fear of judgment, or worse.
Apathy is rampant and malignant and furthermore, understandable. It can be incredibly overwhelming trying to figure out what to actually do to make a difference. THIS is what we can do. We can talk about it. Speak up at school, work or parties. Band together, get the conversation going, make our voices heard. There is a Hatian saying, “Alone we are weak, together we are a flood”. And this is exactly what we have the potential to be. Together, we can be the flood that drowns out the hate, the apathy and the many injustices suffered by our LGBTQ sisters and brothers. It’s everybody’s problem.
It was only fifty years ago that marriage between black people and white people was against the law. Water fountains, bathrooms and schools were segregated. In another fifty years our grandchildren will look back on this time agog, with the same awe and disgust we now hold for a time before civil rights.
We implore you to think about which side of history you want to be on.
WHO’S WITH US!?